There are a few in the autistic community who want to gatekeep conversations to those who have a “proven” doctor-provided medical diagnosis of being autistic. This concept is extremely troubling.
Perhaps those people do not realize it, but if they, themselves, have easy access to a local doctor and hospital, they are in the rare minority in our world. The majority of people on our planet have NO access to doctors or hospitals even in emergencies. And another portion of the people might be near a doctor or hospital, but be wholly unable to afford using them.
Even if you look in a “rich” country like the US, there are vast swaths of people who have zero access to a hospital or doctor. It’s especially true in poor and rural communities.
The autistic community absolutely needs to be inclusive. We need to be welcoming. Half of the autistic people out there have nowhere else to turn. They have nowhere else to get information from. If we are then going to turn them away because of their situation, that seems beyond heartless to me. It seems unethical.
We don’t choose where we are born. Heck, we don’t choose to be born with autism. It’s the random chance of the universe. Every one of us is born into a situation beyond our control with a DNA make-up beyond our control. We do the best we can with what we have.
If we are blessed and fortunate enough to be one of the “lucky ones” born into a situation where we have access to medical care we can afford, then we should count our blessings and be grateful every day. Literally billions of people desperately dream of having that same gift.
I can’t overemphasize how strongly I feel about this. The autistic community needs to be welcoming. We need to have open arms. We need to help those who come to us.